Wednesday, September 9, 2015

To The Twenty-Something Who Doesn't Have It All Figured Out

Dear Twenty-Something,

Are you overwhelmed yet? Are you lost yet? Have you woken up and wondered what the hell you’re doing? Have you had to start over? Have you doubted yourself?

I’m going to take a great leap and assume you’ve answered yes to at least one of those.

There’s a lot of invisible pressure on the twenty-somethings. We’re supposed to finish school and find a career and find a spouse and maybe even start having babies. All before what, we turn thirty?   Who set that pretend deadline anyway?

Chances are you’re somewhere in the middle of all of that. Chances are you finished school but now you don’t know whether or not to continue your education or jump into the job field. Chances are you’re newly married and don’t know whether to focus on your career or on starting a family. Chances are you started a career and now you don’t even know why you chose that field in the first place. Chances are you just don’t know.

And you know what? That is okay.

It is okay if you don’t have it all figured out yet. It is okay if you can’t do it all. It is okay if thirty is coming faster than you expected and you don’t have a white picket fence and a 401k. It is okay if you can’t be everything and if you forgot yesterday’s load of laundry in the washer and now you have to wash it all over again because it stinks. It is okay if you tossed a frozen pizza in the oven because that’s all that you had in you for today. It is okay if you’ve had four different jobs since you turned twenty and you’re still not entirely sure that there won’t be a fifth one. It’s okay if twenty-five passed you up and there still isn’t a ring on your finger or you’re almost thirty and baby number one isn’t here yet.

It is okay. You are enough right now. In this moment, you are right where you should be. I promise you.

All my love,
The Twenty-Something Right There With You

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